The 80′s called…they want their bangs back…and other snappy comments folks have made about me and my blog!

As promised, I said I’d pen a blog about all the comments people have made on my blog, and at times, unfortunately, about me.  But as I’ve always said, I’d rather make fun of myself, before others have a chance to, since I’m aware I give people lots of material to work with.  The comments made are in bold …My responses are Not in bold…and sometimes a response isn’t needed.  I’ve indicated which blog the comments came from, as well, should you decide to peruse back and see what all the fuss is about.

1.  The 80′s called they want their bangs back.  This was just plain ole rude!  Clearly this reader thinks my bangs aren’t very 2013…What can I say?  They’re kinda side-swoopy…as much as I can get a swoop due to my low forehead?  But I’m not sure people are thinking “Cindy Lauper” when they see me.  Of course, I deleted that person’s comment and marked it as “Spam”!  :)

2. If the average 50+-year-old looked like Ms. Sheridan or Ms. Brinkley, I might simply ignore your self-indulgent narcissism, which sounds very much like the “I’ll do what i want!” sort of thing a 16-year-old might say. There’s a reason those women look so young — the same reason why it’s wildly unrealistic and just plain irrational for regular (i.e. non-fashion models & non-actresses) women to look at them as an “inspiration.” They do very little besides constantly work at being beautiful, while most women actually work at real jobs. Get real! Speaking of acting your age …I’ll just confine myself to saying that such considerations as class, dignity, and an awareness that grandmothers dressing like tarts is an affront to the sensibilities of many (including their children and grandchildren) may be something to consider, provided of course that one can step outside of self-worshipping, ego-ridden vanity. (Dress your age survery…seriously).  He was implying that I was self-indulgent and narcissistic because I said that while I do angle towards fashion rules, I do tend to wear what I like when I like it…as long as I don’t look too foolish or inappropriate.  I think people should be able to wear what they want (i.e. white jeans after Labor Day), without the Fashion Police accosting them.

3. 120″ carry on with satchel that has my purse in it. Boots, flat shoes and tennis shoes , 3 pants , 1 skirt, 5 sweaters , 2 tops, 2 scarves  , minimal jewelry     But oh crap I just remember I forgot my curling iron.  This was in response from a friend about my savvy packing blog, and this is what she packed for a 1-week trip to Japan…and she carried on!  Impressive…my in-flight amusement typically meets the maximum requirements of the airline’s carry-on limits.

4. What about a tiara??? (The one fashion accessory I can’t live without) – This helped launch it’s own blog, entitled, “What about a tiara”?  Don’t leave home without one.

5. Not a bad idea to shore up your fan base by throwing a bone to your guy followers. (This one’s for the boys) – This helped launch MANic Monday’s…the first Monday of the month being dedicated to Men.

6. Ahem…rumor has it you have a stunning poncho that many at Soldier field would covet! Given your top notch negotiation skills, I’d bet you may even be able to trade it for a parking pass. (Are you ready for some football) – Yes, I do have a Bears -fleece poncho, which 2 very dear frinds gave me.  And no, I have not worn it…but thinking this just may be the year to do that!

7. Terry O…I have to say “well done baby!” As a southerner though, i have to go to my roots, there are hard-fast rules that i must abide…even though I’ve been here for more years than i care to admit…white ONLY from Easter thru Labor Day!!…unless you’re attending a Bear’s Game, where off -white corduroy is acceptable…don’t ask me how I know this (Wearing White After Labor Day and other Fashion Myths)…My friend Kathy P, actually wore, in December, a pair of cheetah mules, with white (off-white) corduroy pants…She looked Fabulous!

8. At what size do skinny jeans become an oxymoron?  That, is actually quite true…They make them in all sizes, and I’m thinking as long as your bottom is covered, why not?

9. A person who carries a $895 tiffany bracelet bag, should Not be writing about frugality (Frugal is the new black). Touche.  But it really is a fabulous bag!

10.  And every one of these came from one reader…they’re all worthy of their own blog.  I actually thought this was spam, but no such luck.

a) Would somebody please give that blond in the first pix a baloney sandwich? Maybe enroll her in the Bad Lunch meat of the day club? Which blond? Why the one who looks like she’s got a stick in her bum.

b) Fashion tips for men from men. NO getting men to change fashions like girls. Example:

c) 30 year old dress shoes are OK as long as they are perfectly polished (Parade Dress), the leather is without cracks and holes. It is OK to pay over $300 for these shoes ONLY of you plan on making them last 30 years at least.

Mole skin repairs are acceptable if on the inside only.

d) Button down shirts work. Short sleeved button downs DO NOT EXIST. Don’t think of it, you’ll just make your self look more like an idiot if you do. Well if you are participating in Bring-A-Dork to work day, it’s OK.

Polo shirts are OK for weekends ONLY. Tees are OK ONLY if they have a pocket. Colored tees work only if they have bleach blotches

e) If you are wearing a shoe that is not round toed and highly shined, it had better be:
i) a real cowboy BOOT clean but without a shine.
ii) a motorcycle engineer BOOT without a shine.
iii) tennies, Chuck Taylor hi-tops or athletic shoes that you paid less than $100 without a shine, you moron.

f) If you wear those idiotic square toed shoes plan on never getting promoted beyond the mail room  Stop buying this crap or we all are gonna change AND you know exactly what this means – Shopping for shoes – Why did you think it is all right to wear 30 year old properly shined shoes. If it weren’t we’d hafta shop for shoes more often  OK, get it moron? AND STOP watching that sissy Montel Williams. What the heck kinda name is Montel?

11.  How could I have not known about this blog and all of your valuable insights and fashion tips for the gorgeous, gridiron gals of Chicago? Thrilled that the Bears’ opener is this Sunday hardly captures my optimism for the upcoming season. With Brian U. back on the field and our new acquisition, Julius Peppers, we may truly have a defense that could inflict some serious hurt. Offense…who knows. In my opinion, the jury is still out on Jay C.  All of this analysis aside, I’m hoping to get to a game this year and sport one of my own fabulous Bears-appropriate ensembles. I guess all I need is a dear friend with an extra season ticket and place at her tailgate table for me  (Are you ready for some football)  If you hadn’t heard about my blog, you’ve clearly been living under a rock.

12.  How did you get Kevin to pose for the picture with the socks and sandals (There was an old man who lived in a shoe)  Sadly, Kevin really does, at times, wear socks with sandals. Men!

13.  Dear DTAT,Sadly I must work over spring break. This work encompasses a four day site inspection in the Riviera Maya region of the world with two clients and one JR fellow. My question is; since the guilt of leaving my wife and kids at home in the shitty weather, is killing me. Can I wear shorts and flip flops on my site inspections to make myself feel better?
Signed,
Never whistle while you pack for a business trip (Spring forward and plan forward for spring break) – I do believe this comment, from my buddy Jason…was nothing more than pure boasting.

14.  You are a genius, but I did not see one of those mix and match outfits on your body in Orlando! Who are you trying to kid? :O) (packing tips).  I posted a blog about mix and match outfits, the week I returned from a 4-day business trip to Orlando…and my dear friend Leslie is correct, I did not wear one of the Giranimal outfits in Orlando.

15.  I finally got a chance to actually read the blog that I was dissing you about. You do confess your sins well. Bottom line is anyone who actually checks bags for a 3-4 day trip is not a savvy packer. On the other hand, when you reach your destination T, you will look and dress much better than I will! (Overpacking at its worst…guilty as charged).  Yes, I do try and confess my sins well.

16.   Mrs. Farmer turned me onto your blog, but I am my own man…nobody forces me to do anything!
I’m looking forward to the first Monday of May, I won’t wear a thing until then.
Love the blog, but not necessarily the pictures/examples…I’m fat (Mom calls me husky), can I not dress well?
Can you help me dress well? (The truth about sport coats).  Mr. Farmer, the pleasure has been all mine…and I’m still having trouble finding great pictures of larger men who are dressed well!  What is wrong with people in Fashion?!

17.  Great ideas. I’d like the 365 ideas for a year. I must say you sound like you have way too much energy. Reduce the caffeine and you’ll be more like the rest of us. (21 days to get organized).  I really don’t want to reduce my caffeine.

18.  I would never complain about you sneaking in a George Clooney pic, but really? Another Buttercup reference? Do you take us for a bunch of fools?! (Dressy after Six…MANic Monday).  No, but I do enjoy both George Clooney and Buttercup…as a matter of fact, I may start to insert those references into future blogs again.

19.  I’m not trying to dethrone the fashion blogger, but I think you need an intervention!! When packing for a 3 or 4 day trip, why does one need “2 pairs of boots” and “more boots”? As you said, if you stick with the color scheme of black, you shouldn’t need multiple pairs of boots! And “handbags”, (plural)? For a quick trip you can certainly pick one neutral purse that will go with all outfits. No one is going to “out” you if you don’t change your purse every day on a trip, as we know you love to do. And if you’re like me, you pack about 4 outfits per day, because you just never know if you will fall in a mud puddle, or get caught in the rain, or end up going to 3 or 4 different events that require different looks. Cut back on half of the clothes. There, I believe I’ve removed about 25 pounds of your luggage! Your back can thank me later! (overpacking at its worse…guilty as charged) My dear sister Megan, should be a guest blogger.

20.  Here’s a tip for you Terry: bring half the clothes and twice the money. I like your rebuttal and the original post. I believe you said you were a saavy packer, not a light one. Alas, no one wants to be known as the heavy packer…not a good nickname. (Rebuttal on savvy packing).  I agree, I’m not too keen on being known as a “heavy packer”.

21.  Great blog! And your decision to start shopping in your own closet fits well with your previous blog on frugality. Can’t blame you for the pink sunglasses because I would have thought they would look cute on you too!In your list of bad purchases, you might add that Nike tennis sweater that perfectly matched the rest of your outfit, but you bought for a trip in which we were playing tennis in 85 degree weather. A better purchase would have been investing in real tennis shoes as I think the ones your wore wrecked your feet for months. (don’t buy it if you don’t love it).  Fashion before function.

22.  These comments make me laugh so hard I pee my pants! Good thing I am not traveling because I pack so light I wouldn’t have a change of underwear!! (rebuttal to my savvy packing blog) Making people pee in their pants is a goal of mine.

23.  What is so spectacular about not checking luggage? Who in their right might want to schlep a bag through the airport then heave it into the overhead bin? I’m with you T — one must be prepared for more than one fashion situation regardless of length of trip. When someone starts handing out Nordstrom gift cards for minimal bags packed, I’ll consider it. For now, that’s why God put luggage handlers on this earth. And, finally, why would anyone ever count their pairs of shoes (or purses)? I’d rather spend that time searching for the perfect luggage! (rebuttal to my savvy packing blog) Thank you Phyllis for coming to my rescue!

24.  This is for “ME?” Fellow Readers: I read Terry’s last blog last week with dressing tips for women and I suggested she write a version for men. So, I’m hoping (!) Ms. O’Brien is not insinuating that all of these points are directed at me, per se, but to all men.
I just have one comment. Ladies, on Item #2 – Men don’t do “skin care.” Get over it. I don’t know a single man who buys this overpriced junk. It’s bought ny women, then men stick it under the bathroom sink. (How not to look old for men) I truly meant no harm here…

25. I want you to tell me that the woman’s trend of huge bug sunglasses is OVER….women look like idiots!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Men’s fashion faux pas) Sadly, Mark, big sunglasses are still all the rage.

26.  I just hope Missoni doesn’t have a “plus size” line of horizontal striped sweaters. (Standing in line to buy a horizontal striped shirt?!) Hilarious.

27.  I have a bad mental picture of the woman wearing horizontal stripes sitting at her computer watching her eBay items with a huge pile of Chick Fil A wrappers next to her! (Standing in line to buy a horizontal striped shirt?!) Again, Hilarious.

28.  KOW 77 (Vanity plates…yay or nay) – Classic, classic comment.

29.  I’m afraid the quarters for a college student will not be used as ‘intended’! Good lists though. (stocking stuffers) I think Ellen was correct here.

I found this posted either on Pinterest of Facdbook…regarding Adult Truths…After witnessing some very “”un-adult” behavior this week, I thought this was worth a mention.

Have a great weekend, Happy Father’s Day and Go Hawks!!

Here’s a link to last year’s blog on Father’s Day gift ideas:

http://dressedtoat.wordpress.com/category/fall-fashion-trends/fathers-day-gifts/

xoxo,

T.

Meet Murphy!

OK…so first Monday of the Month is supposed to be MANic Monday…but today it’s Murphy Monday!

This is Murphy.  The newest addition to our  household.  Bear with me and this blog while I give you a little history about her (yes she’s a her) because I want everyone to know why she means so much to our entire family….and not because she happens to be ever so cute and cuddly!

Murphy came into my family’s life back in 2007 when my father was thinking about getting a dog, because his dog Bailey, a Giant Schnauzer, passed away earlier that year.  My family always had Giant Schnauzers, but my father  thought he would get a small Scottie dog, since it’s a more practical than a 125 LB Giant Schnauzer.  I happened to be doing a little internet perusing and found a Giant Schnauzer rescue site and saw a giant, named “Miss Murphy” who was looking for a family to adopt her.   As soon as I showed my Dad her picture, he wanted to meet her and the rest, as they say, is history!

Murphy was 3, almost 4 when my dad adopted her.  I remember receiving an email from the woman who arranged the adoption after she dropped Murphy off at my Dad’s house, “it was wonderful to see how happy Murphy was playing on the floor of your dad’s house, with her squeaky toy, because when we rescued her she could barely lift her head off the floor”.   She was 45 pounds, had been abused and didn’t appear to have been well taken care of.  :(  That changed when my father adopted Murphy.   My father loved Murphy.  Murphy loved my father.  He took care of her.  She took care of him.

This past summer when my father was sick, which we wrongly thought was a flu or virus, he got into bed at 7PM on a Saturday night and Murphy got into bed with him.  My father was so ill, he couldn’t get out of bed (and neither me nor my siblings knew how sick he was, but Murphy apparently did), and Murphy did not leave his side.  She lay in bed with my father from 7PM Saturday night, until my brother Mark went to my dads at 1130AM on Monday.  She didn’t get out of his bed, didn’t  try to get something to eat, drink, nor try to go outside to do her “business”.  She never once, even for one minute left my father”s side.  40 hours she lay by his side watching over him.  That’s remarkable.  Murphy is remarkable.  And fiercely loyal.

Sadly, we lost my father a few weeks ago, and the only bright spot in this very tough time is Murphy gets to live with me and my family.    While still heart-broken over the loss of my father, we are quite fortunate to have a daily reminder, of my dad…and one who follows me, Everywhere, around the house.  I’m now her person…except she isn’t allowed in my bed.  :)

I’m still trying to get the Lay of the Land as a dog owner.  While we always had dogs growing up, I’m beginning to realize they my Mom probably did most everything for our dogs (and my brothers quite possibly picked up all their business).  Thankfully, Google and many friends who are dog owners have proven to be a wealth of information and support.  Because we don’t have a fenced yard, Murphy needs to be walked outside so she can do her business.  I feel like I live in Lincoln Park with all the dog walking we are doing.  Happily we are having the electric fence installed, which will help cut down on the numerous walks we take each day, and with the winter weather coming, that should come as a welcome relief.  I also plan on having a special collar put on Kevin as well.  Oh and one other bright side,  due to the numerous daily walks we take each day, both Murphy and I have been able to drop some greatly needs LBs!

Murphy appears to be adjusting just fine.  She’s made friends with the neighborhood dogs, and delights in walking with them all in line, as she’s now part of a “wolf pack” and she even has a new best friend…Sampson, a Golden Doodle, who is a gentleman 8 years her junior, and both seem to be just fine with that!  She has had a bit of trouble adjusting to the daylight savings time-change, as she thinks we need to do our “big walk” at 7AM, instead of 8AM…but we are working through that with treats and affection.  :)  (Side bar: she’s a magnet for men, btw, especially at gas stations when we go on our field trips to fill the car with gas…note to file for you single gals out there).

Halloween was our first holiday together and it did not disappoint.  And not because Murphy isn’t fond of scary masks (she’s not but was fairly well behaved for the Trick or Treaters)…but because I was able to Dress her up!!…For one brief moment, Murphy was a Pumpkin.

Then I thought better of it, because I knew she deserved better and understanding she is also a Bears fan, initiated a costume change and dressed her as Sweetness!  They have a lot in common, as they both like to run, and are both very sweet!!

Patrick was mortified when he saw her saying , “That’s a $100 jersey…”.  I quipped back, “Not anymore”.  Just kidding.  Jersey looks good as new and Walter’s autograph was barely smudged!

Speaking of looking good as new… Murphy is a girl.  I mention that as she’s “larger” than your normal canine…(125 LBs but dropping) so people automatically think she’s a boy.  She is not.  She’s a girl.  People also say, “Murphy is a boy’s name”.  It is not.  Actually it’s a last name, and the only Murphy with a first name that I’m aware of is Murphy Brown…and she’s a girl.  To cut down on the misreads of her gender, I’ve gotten her a bright Pink Collar (no bling as she’s Not a poodle).  She also sports a girly bandana.  Her small “business bag” which holds bags to pick up her business, is a small, pink purse.  It clips to her lease, as I’m a courteous and considerate dog owner, picking up after my dog, and the pink purse surely tells those that glance at her she’s a girl.   I like to think of it as Dressing her to a T!  We have 2 holders for the business bags, because Patrick doesn’t like to walk Murphy with the pink purse attached to the leash.  He actually said when he saw it, “you didn’t”.  Yes, Paddy, I did!

Some tidbits heard around town about Murphy:

David reassuring me when I was concerned Murphy was sad and missing Pop:  Terry, she won the dog lottery…seriously. (editor’s note…I think We won the lottery, not the other way around).

Z commenting on Murphy to Susan:  She’s a very civilized dog.

Mark to Megan when Megan told Murphy to sit:  You’re confusing her with an obedient dog.  (editors note…we are looking into obedience classes).

David playing the Dog Whisperer:  Exercise.  Discipline.  Affection…in that order.  Ter…you’ve mastered the exercise and affection…not sure you’ll ever master the discipline and not sure you can ever be the pack leader. (editors note…we’re okay with that).

Susan to Murphy:  Murphy, you need to stay on your leash, as you’ve proven to be a flight risk.  (editor’s note…that’s another blog).

Meredith commenting that Murphy gets more comments and likes on Facebook than she or Patrick:  Murphy is a Super Star!

My dad whenever I asked him about Murphy:  She’s a prize.  She’s perfect.  (editors note…Yes, she is).

Meredith recently said, “We are so lucky we get to take care of Murphy for Pop“…Yes, Mer Mer, we are.

Our next project will be figuring out how to work Murphy into the Christmas card…Neither Kevin or I have ever graced a holiday photo, but I’m guessing that won’t be the case with Murphy!  I’m shopping for a festive bandana as soon as I’m done penning this blog!

Murphy…You had me at Woof!

xoxo,

T.

 :)  :)

It’s All About Me…or at least this blog is. :)

I’m not an interesting person (but, I do  find myself, at times, kinda funny)…so it’s amusing to me, that I get asked a lot of questions and they are typically the same questions.  Someone told me that people are “curious” about me.  Not sure why, because those who know me know I am exactly the same, morning, noon and night (and I’m no prize, either).  I’m a homebody and almost always stay home,  I live for my kids (as most parents do) and I can bore the masses with my duck walks into a bar jokes, and am usually the person who laughs the most at these.  I find them Hilarious.  A loyal reader of my blog suggested I make a blog out of answering the questions that keep being posed to me…so I’ve called her bluff, and Voila…I present, It’s all about me…or at least this blog is!  And for those who could care less, I’ve feathered in more ecards and snappy pictures!  I’ve been averaging 1000+ views/day on this blog…I’m sure this one will hover around 20 or 23 views.  Oh well, so much for averages!

1.  Do I really safety-pin my socks?  Of course .  It’s my all time favorite tip.  My father suggested it and it truly saves, over a lifetime, hundreds of hours sorting socks. My other favorite tip is to store extra garbage bags under the garbage bag in your garbage can.

(Disclaimer – this is not me, nor my laundry room.  I just Googled “Safety pin socks together” and here you go!)

2.  How long does it take to write a blog?  I typically “write” it within 10-15 minutes, then take some time perusing the internet for just the right photographic  accoutrements to lend interest and sometimes amusement.  Typically start to finish 30 minutes…though I draft some, and add pictures at a later date.  I have about 34 in the “hopper”.  So, should something tragic happen to me, this blog can go on till almost end of summer!  And since I’m always aiming to please, I most definitely take blog requests…Bring ‘em on.

3.  How much is the Tiffany Bracelet Bag?  $795.  It was my 20th Anniversary gift.  I have Never spent, myself, $795 on a handbag.   Fortunately for me, Kevin O’Brien cannot say the same.  Mine is the black one.  I now consider it an “heirloom”.  I hope Meredith loves it as much as I do.

4.  How much do I spend on clothes a year?  Only God knows…and Etcetera.  Almost every single item of clothing that I wear (sans an occasion pair of Kut from the Kloth jeans or a man’s shirt or sweater), is from Etcetera. Plus, for the last 2 years, I’ve actually been “shopping in my own closet”, which has helped alleviate these clothing bills.  I have “a lot” of clothes (and that is a huge understatement), and need to stop adding to my closet.  Shopping in Your Closet will be an upcoming blog, btw.

5.  How much do I spend on shoes a year?  Only Nordstrom knows.  I buy 90% of my shoes and boots at Nordstrom.    And, shockingly enough, do most of it online, and almost every pair is bought on sale.  As much as I love to shop, I don’t have the patience to wait around in a shoe store.  And, you rarely have a day where you think, “do these shoes make my feet look fat”, so shoes truly do make women (especially this woman) happy. 70% of my shoes are Black, but I’ve tried focusing on more Brown and metallic!  And speaking of metallic, my “Black-Glitter” Ugg boots have so been my staple for the winter, that I’m really going to miss them come spring!

6.   What is the one fashion faux pas that makes the hair on the back of my neck stand on end?  Hose with Sandals.  Please.  do. not. do. this.

7.  What are the best ways to save money while shopping? While I think clipping coupons is a Great idea, I don’t have that much patience, and I always forget the coupons, then get highly agitated because I forgot them.  When I find a way to master using coupons, I’ll blog about it.   Instead, I always use my Jewel Preferred Card (Grocery card).  I’ve mentioned this before, but I go to Target for shelf goods (but never produce), and go to specialty stores for fruits and vegetables.  I’m speaking Valli’s Produce, not Whole Foods.  I think Groupon rocks, especially for items you need.  Other great ways to save money while shopping:  Jill’s Steals and Deals (on the Today Show, used to be Tuesday’s but now I believe it’s on Thursday’s); Hip2Save.com; ebates.com; Living Social.  All these sites feature Daily deals, or ebates offers cash back when you shop most stores online.   I think this needs to be its own blog, because I could go on and on and on.  But for now, check out these sites I’ve mentioned.

8.  Have I ever thought of switching to decaf?  Ha Ha.  Nope, unless I’m pregnant, and not planning that this year.  I happen to have a lot of energy (again, understatement).  I am like this when I wake up at 0′dark thirty in the morning, and basically run at the same pace, since I collapse around 915PM…And while I used to go to bed at 915PM, my obsession with Pinterest has me staying up past 10:00PM!  And I noted a comment my friend Lynda posted a while back, “you have way too much energy.  You need to switch to decaf.  Then you’ll be like the rest of us”. I buy Starbuck’s French Roast (at Target, because it’s at least $3 a bag cheaper than Jewel), and probably drink 3 cups each morning.  And I drink my coffee black, because in high school when I started drinking coffee, I was putting cream and Sweet and Lo in it, and my dad (Harold) said, “Therese, you need to drink your coffee black, because there will be a time when you are at someone’s house and they won’t have cream or sugar (sweetener), and you will be disappointed, so drink your coffee black”…and I have since that day.  And I still love my Keurig coffee maker, as much as the day I got it!

9.  Why do I carry 2 cell phones? I addressed this in a previous blog, but, sadly, not everyone reads my blog, or reads it totally through, so I am constantly asked this question.  And that’s really ok, because sometimes I don’t even read it all the way through, hence the typo’s you may find.    I carry an iPhone and a Blackberry (bberry for future reference)  because I cannot get used to typing on a touch screen, and for business emails, I make too many mistakes, so I’ve  also kept my blackberry (but did end up upgrading to the new Torch) that has a full keyboard.   I have been asked at least 36 times, if the 2nd phone is for my “boyfriend”…And while I previously mentioned that Kevin “frowns” upon me having a boyfriend, he did recently mention that we’ve never had that discussion.  Hmmh!

10.  Am I really Jay Cutler’s Life Coach?  Uhm…Nope, but I know I’d rock at it (as I believe I would Rock at being an NFL sideline reporter, although my friend Jack says I’m “past my prime”…make that “former” friend, Jack).  I do think I have provided good, solid, well-thought out and free advice to Jay via Dressed to a T.  He would be wise to take me up on it…and while he has extremely endeared himself to me this past season, I still think there’s room for improvement (as there is with all of us).  And if we can keep Mr. Cutler “healthy” this next season, we Will go to the Playoffs!  And you can take that to the bank!  Go Bears!!

11.  Do I write blogs around someecards and bluntcards that I’ve seen?  Nope, the blogs are always written first, and there really is a someecard or bluntcard for everything.  The Honey Badger is a true testament to that!  But I do love someecards (www.someecards.com).   My friend Stephanie and I celebrate Someecard Friday, every friday, and it’s  the best way to start a weekend.  I also have other friends who have gotten into the groove of sending and receiving someecards with me.  I can spend hours perusing this website, and have wasted hours with friends just reading them to each other.  And the best part is they are free!  And, as I’ve mentioned before, Free is good.

12.  Why have I not moved to San Francisco, since Kevin has been working there since June 2008?  First, and most importantly, Meredith was a junior in high school when he took the position there, and it didn’t make sense to move her when she was in high school…and now Patrick is in high school.  Not good timing.  Also, it would take 3-5 years to sell my house, and Kevin lives in his hotel, so we didn’t have to buy a house or condo there…Plus, having a “second city” like San Francisco to visit, while staying in his hotel, is Not the worst thing in the world.  It’s trying at times handling most things on my own, but why complain, when so many people in the world have it worse than me…plus, we’ve been married 21 years, and trust me, it’s ok.   And based on many, many requests, I am posting a picture of Kevin and I, as it’s been brought to my attention that it almost appears that Kevin (KOB) is non-existent.

So there…not terribly interesting, nothing too shocking, just news you can’t use about me, and since this was a “requested topic”, I’m  always aiming to please…(of course and wanting people to like me, which I hope alleviates the older I get).  And I have included more pictures at the end of the blog…for those who have skipped through my “musings of a not so fabulous me”, because they could care less about any of this.  Hopefully they’ll enjoy the ecards!

Upcoming blogs:  3rd edition of my favorite things; The art of buying Jeans; Spring Fashion tips for Men; The Duchess Effect.

Have a Groovy weekend!

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xoxo,

T.

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The nicest thing ever said to me…:)

While at brunch with some friends, we were discussing my theory that Jay Cutler needs a life coach (which is my highest rated blog, btw), and to briefly recap, my friend Cinda said that in order to be a life coach, you really need to have your life in order.  I indicated I wasn’t offering to be Jay’s life coach, just that he needed one.  But truth be told, I don’t think I’d be half bad at it.  And, no I don’t think my life is perfect, but I do have to say, I know how to learn by my mistakes (not a future blog).

So …Cinda and Dave were discussing life, college and choices with Meredith, and she said, “I don’t need a life coach.  I go to my Mom …she  helps me out with everything!”.  Who would have thought the nicest thing ever said to me would have come from my daughter?

And that is what constitutes a good day…and a very happy Mom. 

This week we brought Mer Mer back Indiana University to start her sophomore year.  (I’m not sure who these people are who said that dropping off your kids at college, gets easier each year.  Take it from me, it doesn’t.  At all.)  Perhaps I’ve done a few things right, because for a 19-year old (soon to be 20-year old)…she does seem wise beyond her years…and like her Mom (who is not wise beyond her years), she is quite the savvy packer …2 cars, Not quite packed to the gils like last year, and we did not look like the Grapes of Wrath!  And, based on the amount of clothes she brought with her, she still will be  fabulously and stylishly dressed, so all is right in the world.    Meredith is happy, so I  am happy (very, very sad she’s gone, but delighted she’s so happy).  And the icing on the cake is she has determined  she wants to do what I do for a living (yes, I know, whatever that is).  Of course when she saw this picture of us she said, “you’re hair too’s puffy”.  She’s right.  Again, wise beyond her years .

Life is short…hug your children.   They grow up and go to college, and it’s happens in an instant…before you realize it’s happening.  And children, hug your Mom and Dad…they deserve it.

Next week:  Fall Fashion Trends.

Have a great weekend and Go Bears!

and thank you Carol for reminding me that my Blog is one-year old!

xoxo,

T.

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http://dressedtoat.wordpress.com/2010/08/25/did-i-handle-myself-stylishly/

http://dressedtoat.wordpress.com/2010/08/22/what-does-a-girl-pack-for-college/

http://dressedtoat.wordpress.com/2011/07/22/jay-cutler-needs-a-life-coach/

Of Mice and Terry

Who knew that my little blog on the misadventures of our mice, would generate so much interest!  So, I have no choice but to offer up a follow-up Mouse blog…Truth be told, I’ve turned into a Mouse Frau.  Based upon the title of this blog, you may get the gist, that the saga of  “Of  Mice and Terry”  is not yet over.   It’s shocking to admit, but I  can be such a girl (and not in a good way).  I’ve screamed so much at the site of mice, I feel like I have a raging sore throat…and if I wasn’t so gosh darned clumsy, I would stand on a chair to avoid the mice.   But hence, I would fall off, so not sure what is worse a broken leg, broken ego, or a heart attack from the mice, so I’m staying off the chair.

What has happened since we last met 7 days ago…Bachelors 5,6,7 and 8 have reared their ugly beady eyes.   I won’t get into the nitty-gritty, about the hows and why’s of how these creatures have continued to Take over my Life  (since this is supposed to be a style blog),  but  the mice have outsmarted the traps as well as the plug-in mice repellent!   I am not amused.   And lest you think I live in squalor, not true!  My home is clean, neat, and organized (most places).  It happens to the best of us.  And,  I have declared “I’m sick and tired and not going to take it anymore”.  The O’Brien’s shall stop being such gracious hosts, except for party guests, whom we actually invite!

This week  Dennis from Orkin, appeared at our door, and I have hope, and a few less mice.   We have admitted we have a problem, and are taking the necessary 12-steps to ensure we rid our lives of these nasty little creatures.  I figure the humiliation of having Mr. Bug in my driveway pales in comparison to having a heart attack at my tender young age, so we gave in to a higher power (Mr. Orkin).   We are Rodent-Free…and will be on an on-going program to remain as such.  Oh, and we know I’m not that young!

It pains me to admit, but this is not the first time we have been invaded on our home field.  Several years back, a gaggle of raccoons decided they digged our home (pun intended) and started to expand their family in the walls of our humble abode.  Again, we were not amused.  I was even unhappier when the guy from ABC Wildlife asked if National Geographic could film the rescue of these house invaders  for an upcoming special on “How wild animals migrate into people’s homes. ”  I did not want to be known as the Raccoon Lady, so I politely declined.

Actually…I do not want to be the mouse lady either, or the raccoon lady, or the lady who screams each time she sees a mouse.  Instead, Meredith or Patrick’s mom, Kevin’s wife (most of the time :) ), Mrs. O’Brien, Terry O, TOB… or T., the gal who writes that snappy blog, sometimes about fashion, actually suits me just fine.

To my partners in Elimination (actually more them, then I)…Eileen and Linda…I owe you the world, or at least a lovely bottle of chardonnay.  Thank you both so much for everything, and for helping me gain back my sanity and house!  It took a village!

xoxo

T.

 

PS -Running screaming from mice, does not a workout make.

Happy Spring!   And coming Friday…Wardrobe Essentials!

If you give a Mouse a Cookie…

Scratch that…make that peanut butter.  And how do I know this?  Because my house has been overrun by Mice!   (Perhaps 4 does not an overrun make, but to me, it’s 4 too many). And unfortunately, I am now a connoisseur of catching mice.   And, while my blog is typically about fashion and style and the Bears, since this has truly taken over my life, I thought I’d pen a quick blog about it. 

Here’s what I know about mice:

1.  They rarely come alone.  Unfortunately I know this first hand… 4 and counting!  Argh.

2.  You do not have to buy a standard mousetrap.  They have these new-fangled traps that look like hockey pucks, so you never had to see a dead mouse again.  My friend Kristy told me about a mouse repellent you plug into the wall, which is supposed to help…24 hours later, no mice.  I think she’s onto something.  I got mine at Ace Hardware.  And yes, I saw Bachelor #4 in my fitness center… this is not good news for trying to keep with my workout routine.

3.  You need peanut butter to catch them, not Cookies, and certainly Not cheese.  Ugh and Yuck! 

4.  Mer Mer, Paddy and I absolutely Loathe these rodents…We’ve thought of checking into a hotel.  Kevin will be pleased he has long-term guests at his hotel.   Dorm living is looking really great to Mer now…actually, it is anyway. 

5.  I hesitate to call an exterminator, because the last thing I want in my driveway is one of those trucks with a Huge Bug on top…talk about giving the neighbors ammunition about me (further ammunition).  Why can’t they disguise their trucks with something less taboo, like a high heel shoe?

6.  We do not have cats, which I know would help with this mouse problem, and thankfully, no snakes…although, the spring season is young,  sadly I am not.  Bring it on little rodents, you’ve met your match!

7.  God-willing, this will be the last blog, I ever write about rodents…I’m much happier blogging about shoes and handbags. 

Coming Friday…Accessories…Don’t leave home without ‘em!

xoxo

T.

Air Travel is no longer Stylish!

It’s 2010 and I am here to proclaim, Traveling is no longer glamorous!

Coming home from a recent trip to FL, I have made the following observations:

1. They will allow anyone on a plane.  Anyone.
2. Your seat number is NOT your gate number.  A female traveler was confused, as our gate was originally C-11, and was changed to C-9…thus she thought her seat also changed… yeah, not really…as the flight attendant had to indicate to her that Gate C-11 on her ticket, was the gate number, while Seat 25-A, was indeed her seat.  She looked confused.
3. Just about Every person from seat 12 and beyond, tried putting their carry on luggage above seats 1-8.   And they don’t take kindly when those around us make snide remarks.  You really need to put your bags near where you sit.
4. Why are dogs and cats allowed on plane, while peanuts are not?  If my son was on a plane next to a dog or cat, he would have the same horrible allergic reaction, as if sitting next to someone enjoying a snicker bar.  I love dogs, but I know Kevin and Patrick have very strong allergies to them, and not sure what I would do if one was in our row.
5. The most useful thing you can bring onto a plane is your shawl.  Our flight was Freezing, but I had my shawl to keep me warm.  I know many airlines sell blankets now for $5, but you would turn into a frozen ice cube while waiting for 38,000 feet while the flight attendants moved throughout the cabin selling their wares.
6. If you have a cold, with a nasty cough… please bring cough drops.  The sound of a hacking cough, while flying the friendly skies, really takes the fun out of air travel. 
7. If you get on an airplane, wearing a surgical mask… take it from me…every other passenger on that plane thinks you are afraid of each of our germs, and it’s not because you are cautious about sharing your germs with the remainder of the passengers.  The woman above really was terrified of just about everything…surgical mask, eye mask, and a pillow for good measure. 
8. If you are friendly to the flight attendants, there is a good chance they will give you happy hour prices for the several small bottles of vodka you consume .  I have tested this theory numerous times.

9.  4/10 passengers do Sudoku Puzzles…and if you are sitting next to someone who likes sudoku’s, there’s a good chance they will attempt to help you solve your puzzle.

10.  If you have to go to the lavatory and the flight attendants are in the aisle, it’s not considered good form to ask them to move their cart to the back of the plane, 65 rows back.  Just sayin’.  And, why can’t the passengers in coach use the first class restroom, when the cart is in the aisle?  I’ve been in both first and coach restrooms…and the first bathrooms do not have an attendant handing out mints, hand cream, or hairspray.

11.   While we are dissing first class , it is horribly cruel to serve first class passengers fresh-baked chocolate chip cookies, while coach passengers are sitting in smelling distance.  And we thought waterboarding was harsh!

12 The boarding process should be an efficient, aggressive approach.  Lollygagging about exhibits poor behavior.  And if you are all of 80 pounds, don’t carry on a 50 LB bag, and expect others to help you hoist it above into the overhead.

13.  When you are de-planing, stepping over passengers in front of you declaring, “I have to catch a connecting flight”, does not give you Priority Access to getting off the plane…and furthermore, it’s really not a good idea to be seen at Wolfgang Puck’s, perusing the pizza collection while the passengers whom you knocked over, are walking by staring at you in utter disbelief!

14.  My favorite thing on an airplane is wi-fi!  It’s like I’m sitting on my couch at home checking my emails, my blog stats, Facebook, and shopping at Nordstrom or Abernook.com.

And this all recalls a time, this year when flying to Kansas City on American Airlines and the overhead compartment would not close properly, and you cannot take off  with an unstable overhead compartment…so they called the airline mechanic, and he fixed it.  I took a picture to remember that wonderful moment.  His first effort didn’t work,  and he just needed to apply more Duct tape…it really does fix everything.

Safe Travels,

xoxo

T.

Hello (again) World

I’ve determined I will blog once a week. I think that is sufficient, and hopefully I won’t irritate the masses too much.  And let’s be honest, there really aren’t any “masses”…yet.   3 Followers does not a “mass” make…but I’m hoping.

I’d like to focus on a Friday “Fashion Fab”, but this week I am blogging on a Tuesday.  See, no hard and fast rules.  Of course, I may blog about things that are not always “fashion-related”, but I shall try to put a fashion or stylish twist on them. This should keep us all happy.  Or at least me happy and my 3 Blogging Followers.  :)
Today, I am going to dabble in Fashion Rules…and Fashion Do’s (Not Don’ts).  I personally like to focus on Fashion Do’s, rather than Don’ts,  especially when working with my Dressed to a T clients.  It’s like that book, Eat This, Not That… I prefer… Wear This, Not That.  I lean more towards, you can wear this with this, this and this… I typically don’t tell people What Not  to Wear…just lead them down the path of What To Wear (or what will look best on them).  Now, we all have our opinions of the Glamour Don’ts…and I am no exception…however I, unlike most other “fashionista’s” ( I use that term loosely)  feel if you like what you are wearing, and feel good in it, then Fabulous!…who are we to make you feel badly?  …Unless you happen to be  doing the following:
1. Wearing white to a wedding. Please don’t do that. It shows a great deal of disrespect to the bride, who may not even be wearing white to her own wedding (ahem). Everyone has their chance and day to shine in the sun, and let it be on your wedding day, not hers. 
2. Hose with sandals. I really , really  don’t think this a good look. However, if you choose to do this, again, your choice, it won’t ruin my day, but I think you’d look better without the hose. When wearing pants or skirts  with sandals, some women feel the need to still wear hose, to streamline their look.   You can achieve that in other ways. Spanx. (that’s gonna be its own blog). and hose, but cut them off above the ankle, so the pants fall below them,  so you can’t see them.  You obviously cannot do this “trick” with a dress or skirt (or ones that are above your ankle), but you can certainly wear Spanx, or other wonderful, powerful undergarments.   I think a bare leg (shaven and with a little of nature’s sun..real or fake), with a skirt or dress, looks terrific. And, unless you are in a very strict law office or bank, this is totally acceptable for business. Now, if you must wear hose, then wear a pump, or a closed toe shoe is another a great choice.  I know they make sandal-toed  hose, but they’re still hose, so don’t wear them with sandals or open toed shoes.  Skirts with boots are my favorite and most comfortable look, so look for that blog in an upcoming week.

***This above look (both of them actually) is guaranteed to Add 10+ years onto your look.  Funny how a picture can truly be worth a thousand words.
3. Wear clothes that fit.   Something that is too tight,  is not going to look good.  And, it’s not going to feel good.  Who hasn’t put on their favorite pair of jeans to find that they don’t fit…Well, you can put on another pair of jeans…try and wear them with spanx (though I cannot imagine this would feel comfortable), or if you must wear those jeans, wear a loose top with it, which covers up the top of the jeans…and may help cover  the muffin-top (if you happen to have a muffin top).  Oh, the same goes for clothes that are way too big.  You can bring them to a good tailor, and Voila, your clothes will fit properly.

4. Bra straps showing.  Blatantly.   Enough said on that subject.

That’s basically it… I think you can wear White after Labor Day, as well as before Memorial Day…and yes, there are indeed “purists” out there who won’t do it, and that’s fine. But it’s also fine if you choose to wear your favorite pair of white jeans to my birthday soire on Sept. 21st. I think you can wear black or red to a wedding (not white)…It’s whatever makes you feel good.    Now when my husband wears black socks with shorts and sandals or shoes, I really don’t like that either…but I’m not making a Fashion Stand against that, because I truly don’t think there is anyone else out there, other than my husband, who would dare try to pull off that look.  Now I’m sure I have friends who will say, “Hey, she’s the fashion police and has much stronger opinions than this”…true, but I really am about women and men feeling good about themselves, so if the “shoe (or garment) fits…wear it…and wear it with pride”.  Of course,  I would like to reserve the right, in future blogs, to touch upon other fashion don’ts (or Fashion Do’s)  that I happen to stumble upon on the streets, but for now, I feel good about this list.

Disclaimer…. Yes, there are going to be people out there, wearing something that makes all of us think “What in the world are they thinking”…and chances are it’s probably something that’s ill-fitting, been in their closet for eons, or, they left the house without looking in the mirror.  There are going to be people out there, who regardless of what society dictates,  think they look stunning in what they are wearing, and they are the Only person who thinks so.  You know what?  Good for them.  All the more power to them.   Plus, they’ll probably get tackled by Stacy and Clinton in an upcoming episode of What Not to Wear…and they’re gonna be $5000 richer in clothes, with new make-up, and a new hairstyle (and aren’t we glad that Nick is gone, as he gave basically Everyone that same hairstyle)?

That wasn’t so harsh, was it?  Thanks for checking in and have a Fabulous Week.

xoxo

T.

Hello World!

Well, I am officially a blogger…well at least Word Press thinks so.  Thanks to my darling friend Gina, who suggested this, I am now part of the cyber-blogging world.  I’ve always felt that Tweeting and Blogging is a tad bit, shall we say, narcissistic, but who am I to judge.   Actually, I enjoy reading blogs, and many friends do a great job with them. It’s Tweeting that I always figure (and know I’m in good company), “I don’t think anyone out there is remotely interested in what I have to say in tweets on an ongoing basis”. Of course, I am on Twitter…TerryOBrien, but I don’t really Tweet. So, I thought, I do like to write, Plus, I have a lot to say…and feel strongly about fashion, clothes, accessories, Etcetera fashions, and live by the mantra…It’s better to look good, than feel good…  Actually, it’s great to pull off both, but sometimes when you feel lousy, and can pull off a cute look, it’s mind over matter…so, here is my blog. Or at least, my first shot at it. I understand I can edit this, so will probably use that feature. Often.

I’m thinking this will be a work in progress…and we will learn as we go along.  Plus, I have no followers to this blog now, so I shall consider this a Journal.  Speaking of Journals, and I will delve more into this in a later blog, I do think it’s important to journal your outfits…so you don’t always show up wearing the same favorite outfit we always pull from the closet.  I keep a mini fashion log on outlook noting what outfit I wear to industry events, parties, and work functions…so I don’t always wear the same Cheetah patterned swing skirt, with brown turtleneck, and brown boots, to every industry meeting.  Of course, now there’s an app for that, and you can keep track of these on your iPhone.  And they’re free…lots of fashion-related apps are free.  Of course, sometimes, you get what you pay for.

Goodbye World – Girl’s Night Out, for a movie and drinks, and not necessarily in that order.

xoxo

T.